Have you ever had an argument with someone… in your head?
Ha! Sure you have. Someone said something to you, or wrote a brief and rather rude email, or cut you off in traffic, or just gave you a little look, and off you went inside your own head having a great big argument.
Maybe you unleashed the fury on them? Maybe you imagined them having a finger right back at you? Ding dong ding dong for hours or days at a time.
I once was so preoccupied with having a heated debate with someone in my head, at an event I was the main speaker at, that I walked right down the long corridor and into the toilets and followed someone virtually into the cubicle with my flies almost undone before I realized it was the ladies.
These arguments in your head can even be with people you’ve never met before. You have no actual idea of what they would say in real life.
And so it is with being indecisive, or getting started, or overwhelm. All those fears and doubts and the weight of big decisions that stop you from taking the first step are (mostly) illusions.
How people will judge you, the past mistakes you made and the unknown future are all illusions, because events are uniquely different each time.
Worry is simply an imagined future that has a very high chance of being wrong, that can significantly affect or ruin the here and now.
You don’t know how it will be, so stop imagining all of the terrible scenarios. As you can hopefully now see, all those things you think that might happen that you create in your head rarely, if ever, do.
The reality is mostly different and unique, so screw it and just do it. Or at least start it. Let the reality be as it will be.
And even if you do make a bad decision, you can make it right with your next, small decision. If presidents can make decisions knowing people will die from them, then you can start working on your small business plan, or pick up the phone and have that hard conversation with your sibling, or whatever else you know you need to do but have been putting off.
What you worry about rarely comes about, like an argument in your own head. Almost every time your worry doesn’t play out as you feared, so stop living in the past or future. Make a decision and let it be, knowing you can change course at any time to control the outcome.