The disliking or hating tendency is the inverse of the loving or liking tendency.
Life is too short to do business with people you don’t like. I refuses to do business with certain companies that sell goods and services that I do not like for ethical reasons.
For example, the fact that a job candidate attended a university you personally dislike should not influence your hiring decision. Taking a factor like that into account is simply not rational.
In other words, it is sensible to pass judgment on a company or person for ethical reasons, but one must be careful not to pass judgment on a company or person based on irrational associations.
Family members do not fall outside of the disliking or hating tendency.
“A major difference between rich and poor people is that the rich people can spend more of their time suing their relatives.”Warren Buffet
Compliance professionals, including some politicians and religious leaders, have learned to manipulate people into making decisions using this tendency.
If someone attempts to manipulate your behavior, you should stay rational and separate how you feel about one thing from how you feel about something else that is related. If someone seems to like or admire you, it may be a ruse to secure your compliance with something they desire.
The skill needed to sort out whether a person is genuine is acquired with experience—the cause of good judgment is usually experiences involving bad judgment.
Some people seem to never learn and some people seem to be born with good judgment, and this is one of life’s great mysteries.